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For a long time Saoirse has considered herself a big girl. After all, she has a baby sister who used to cry a lot. And I do mean A LOT. She uses the big person toilet (Saoirse that is, not Sophie.)She can climb onto the kitchen counters and get her own snacks out of the cupboard. She's been sleeping in a bed for years. Not her own bed mind you, but still it's a bed and big girls sleep in beds. She watches big girl shows, not shows for babies like Sesame Street. Those are her words, not mine. Frankly, I love Sesame Street.
She's been moving in a big girl world for quite a while now. Except...except she still uses her dummy. I don't think I would mind the dummy so much if it was just restricted to bed time. But it's not. She would have it in her mouth constantly if you allowed it. If she is hurt the first thing she asks for is her dummy, not Mummy or Daddy. We put them away, she finds them. The dummy is like a life line.
For quite a few months now, we have been saying that the dummy is going away when she turns 3 because "when you are 3 you are officially a big girl and big girls don't use dummies." Once she started school, it was easy to also say that big girls in playschool don't use dummies either.
It appears that she has gotten use to the idea and during the day the dummy isn't in her mouth as often and she even managed to fall asleep without it one night. But when we talk about being a big girl she says "I'm not a big girl yet!" Tonight she even cried and said it. "No! I'm not a big girl yet." And the tears poured.
One of us: "When are you going to be a big girl?"
Saoirse: "On my birthday."
Us: "When is your birthday?"
S: "In November."
Us:"And what's going to happen on your birthday in only FIVE days?"
No, she doesn't say she will willingly throw her dummies away. She usually ignores us, apparently she is of the impression that if you don't talk about it it won't happen. Sort of like a man, really.
I wonder what she will say when she discovers she is also moving into her own room?
06 November, 2007
Not a big girl yet
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one of the kids I nannied was attached to a pacifier-- I'm assuming that's a dummy. we started cutting little holes in the tip of them and she gave them up on her own. she was younger, so I'm not sure it would work with an older child. (she was two)
You know, I lucked out with Maya in this regard. We tried giving them to her right after we realized that breastfeeding was just not to be.
She was having no part of it. I am thankful for that. But she is a thumbsucker, and we cannot take away her thumb. LOL
I am hoping that she gives it up on her own!!
Oh and the part where you said "She usually ignores us, apparently she is of the impression that if you don't talk about it it won't happen. Sort of like a man, really." - nearly caused me to pee my pants.
LMAO!
Ms. Tabby luuvs her binky ... and even a few months ago, she was really adept at getting it in her mouth. I am dreading having to get rid of it because I don't know what bedtime will be like without it (it's incredibly easy right now).
Ms. Tabby luuvs her binky ... and even a few months ago, she was really adept at getting it in her mouth. I am dreading having to get rid of it because I don't know what bedtime will be like without it (it's incredibly easy right now).
Someone told me once, they tied the dummy to the crib rail with a string that was 3 inches long. The child could use it whenever she wanted, but had to go to the dummy. When the crib was moved to the basement, the dummy went too, she lost interest when she had to go down stairs for it. If you could attach it safely to her bedding, with a very short string (because she is a big girl), then when she has it at night, she has to lie in one position to suck on it, and when she falls asleep and moves, it doesn't remain in her mouth. It might be a way to get her to give it up. Just a thought. Good luck with it on her birthday.
Lila loved her pacifier for the first ten months of life, and then she just didn't anymore. There was no weaning; she weaned herself.
However, while she was still taking it, I was told by my mother that when I was a baby I was rather attached to my pacifier. I asked her how she broke me of it, and she was very matter of fact about it...she just threw them away and that was that. My mother can be quite a pushover, but when it comes to stuff like this there is no question about who was the boss in our house...it was her for sure. Lila's former babysitter, on the other hand, cut all of the plastic part (the part you suck) off of her grandson's pacifiers...nothing there to suck, no more pacifier.
Hope it goes well with getting rid of the dummy! I got lucky Izzak was the only one who ever took one and he got tired of it at around 10 months-ish. The rest never touched it. I have a friend though whose daughter was very attached to hers and she would find them hidden in her bedroom up till she was still in elementary school!
You might google "pacifier fairy". Where basically, she donates all of her pacifiers so that the fairy can take them to babies who need them, and the fairy leaves a present overnight in exchange.
And then you throw them all out, since the fairy took them away. There's a really cute story that goes with it.
I read this a while ago in a baby magazine.
She looks like a younger Taylor in that picture!!!!
How do you pronounce "Saoirse"? I've never heard it before!!
We have a Gullah, Southern colloquial word "Surcee" that is one of my favorites, and something I'd like to call our newest edition (it means "a little gift", but I prefer the "Surcie" spelling), but my husband's not budging! Since Gullah has ties to it's French/Creole roots, I know it has ties to the Romantic languages, but no one can really prove it's origins.
Just wondering if Saoirse is close to my beloved Surcie. :-)
I read Frannie's comment and wanted to say that I read that's a good way to get kids to give them up on there own too.
Good luck!
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