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I very rarely check my stats (although I used to obsess over it), but for some reason the other week I did. And I was looking I noticed that someone had come over to me from a blog I had never heard of. So I went over to said blog and read it as you do. And I linked to one of the comments and guess what?
It's the cousin of my ex husband!
Which totally freaked me out. Because it meant I couldn't leave a comment on that person's blog. Because what if she came and read me? And put two and two together? Now I can't say that she even knows anything about me, for all I know she doesn't even know what Taylor and Liam's names are. I've never met her, but I did meet her parents a grand total of twice. I don't think Taylor and Liam have met her.
I'm not saying that it would be a bad thing if she knew who I was. I don't think I have said anything negative about H or his parents (although I did forget to mention that my ex MIL bought the two girls gifts at Christmas, which I thought was super sweet) except for perhaps when I have briefly talked about H's illness, which I still say he should have known about years before it began to affect him. But you know, the past is the past. And I do know people in real life that read this, but hopefully they won't judge me too badly for screaming bloody murder at the daughter who drives me to the point of demention.
So anyway, I'm wondering do I comment on her blog, or even the original blog that led me to her, and say "Hey! I know you! (or your friend, if I leave it on the first blog) I'm not really a freak, I swear!" or do I just leave it?
23 January, 2008
It's a small world after all.
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18 comments:
that is really weird! I have never read anything bad about your ex-- and I've been reading for awhile.
maybe say "hi"-- what could it hurt?
I say if her reading would cause you to question anything you write or feel like you have to hold back on things, don't do it.
If you'd just listen to me and move to Alabama you'd be far enough away so it really wouldn't matter!
That house two doors down is still for sale.....
Don't leave a comment.
Personally I'd let sleeping dogs lie. However, only you can decide, it's a bit uncanny that you should happen to track your stats and find your ex's cousin!
I had something similar last week and I really needed to just VENT, so I went to the wordpress blog that I had been playing with and made it private. It's working for me so far. I don't know if it would work for you.
leave it. unless you want to be friends with her.
I would comment like normal, waiting to see if the cousin recognized me.
I don't know..does she read your blog regularly or have you noticed yet? Cause..if she does.. she may figure it out anyway. And, if she doesn't, you might not want to worry about it. The main thing is you don't want to worry about what you are writing... this is for you to vent and get things off your chest.
If anything I'd maybe comment on the blog that led you to her and leave it at that. But that's just me. I'm anti-social like that :o) Now you are much kinder and this lady may just love hearing from an 'ex' family member. I've been reading your blog for awhile now and I certainly don't think you come across as negative. At least not any more then any average human being out there. And certainly nothing bad about your ex.
I think I'd probably become a lurker on her blog, to protect myself, maybe eventually deciding I felt comfortable enough to comment.
Yikes! I had a terrible experience with my SIL reading something I posted on a website once. So, I say leave it alone. Of course, my opinion is completely skewed by my experience.
Were you friends before when you were married? Do you want to be friends again? Do you really want to have to start censoring what you say in case all your ex family starts to read here? That's what you should ask yourself.
Like others said, if there's anything you'd think twice about posting once she starts reading you, then I'd say don't do it. you don't want to have to restrict yourself anymore than you already have to.
I agree with Catwoman. I told one person about mine, just one, and I find it restricts me a little. Weird...
Personally I wouldn't do anything but I am not all that open on my blog and would prefer to remain somewhat anonymous so people who know me don't find me!!!
Well, you do have an array of comments. You have your full name on the side bar, so if she noticed that, she may recognize the name. If not, she may not figure it out. I would likely comment on the one that led you there, and lurk on both. She may check her stats and see you lurking so if you really don't want her to find you, lurking may not be a good idea either. I guess it depends on how important it is she not read you. I frankly don't care much if my relatives are reading, but I am not really doing opinion posts very much and I don't care what they think of my life.
I'd leave it...for now. See if she keeps coming back, I guess.
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