I honestly don't know how you moms who work out of the home full time do it. Please enlighten me. How do you manage work, kids, housework, volunteer activitis and sports? I know there are those of you who do it so tell me how you manage? Because franky, I am a mess and I have only worked 2 shifts!
We had a pretty good Saturday, Taylor (after a huge fight in which I called her a selfish bitch- god, I know it's awful, I hate myself for the things I find I'm saying to her) spent the afternoon with her dad (that's what the fight was about- she refuses to see him and, ffs, the man is dying. She's only got a few years to be with him.) and saw Pirates 3. Liam took a break from going, since he goes all the time when Taylor won't and decided to hang out with friends. William and I took the girls to the Valley Zoo. Saoirse had a great time, she was excited to see the tiger, the elephants, snakes, monkeys and the sea lions. She really wanted to see penguins, but I guess you have to do that at the mall. One walked right past us last week. I said to William that we should go down to Calgary one weekend, because really? The zoo there is about a thousand times better. I got some cute pictures and should I ever get around to downloading them I will actually post them. Along with the confirmation pics.
Saturday evening Saoirse came down with what appeared to be yet another bad cold. She was lethargic and wheezy. We gave her some ventilin and decided to see how the night went. She was pretty good Sunday, had a runny nose and eyes but was out and about with William all day until she crashed at about 4. And she slept. And slept. And slept some more. She coughed a lot through the night, woke up at about 7 this morning, came downstairs and fell right back asleep on the couch until gone 8. She woke up with her eyes all stuck shut, which she was none to pleased to have me remove. She didn't eat much today, just a spoonful of macaroni and cheese, some cheese and breadsticks and a few drinks. She played outside for a bit and then fell asleep at 3. Slept off and on until 8, was up for 2 hours and then went to bed. Sorry- I'm sure you don't care, but honestly this is the only place I will record this and I need to know should we go to the doctor.
Sunday was also supposed to be my cleaning day, but before I got a good start my friend Jen called and asked if I could take her son until her mum arrived to pick him up. Jen was cleaning her empty house, as she has just moved. So Bennett came over and I had an excuse to stop was unable to keep cleaning. An hour or so later Jen called and asked if I could keep him because her mum didn't want to take him because she wanted to plant her tomatoes! Jen said "I don't have a mum like you, Emma." And it's true, I am so lucky when it comes to my mum, who babysits whenever I need her. Plus, when I moved my mum cleaned my old house for me. In fact, she went over to Jen's that afternoon to give her a hand. Yes, she's a pretty good mother. Though she really pissed me off at Janine's mum's funeral on Friday, but that's a whole other story.
I have Bennett all week, and his sister in the afternoons, as their normal babysitter had gone off to Disneyland. Jen has asked me to babysit come September, but I don't think I could, as much as I would love to stay home I do realize that I need the money and working just 2 shifts is what I would get paid for a month of babysitting. So I may as well as work a couple of shifts a week and then have the rest of the time for just the girls and I. Plus, it's hard to clean up when you have 2 babies, a toddler and a troublemaking 6 year old to watch over!
Tonight I had my final school council meeting. It was sort of sad, knowing that I am going to be away from that school for at least another 2 years. Tomorrow and Wednesday Taylor has softball games right after school and both she and Liam have soccer in the evening. Tuesday and Thursday's are killing me right now, they both play at the same time, always at different fields and as William is Liam's coach he always goes to his game. Jen and I were trying to split soccer, as her oldest daughter plays on Taylor's team, but with me not a driver, it's been pretty unfair on her. On Sunday I just had William drop the girls off, which means they had no one watching to cheer them on. Tomorrow my mum's babysitting and they are playing a home game so I will just walk them over. I really need to get my license. Seriously. This is getting ridiculous. Did I ever tell you I failed 3 times? Yep. Three. I have a great big LOSER tattooed on my forehead. Granted, it was 15 years ago since the last attempt but I still think I would fail. I just get too nervous.
Anyway, I totally lost the point of this post which was supposed to be that I am overwhelmed with the crap going on and how the hell do you amazing moms do it? I really want to know.
Oh, and my washing machine broke down, almost started a fire and all the jeans sat in water for so long they have noticeably faded. It's a good thing my kids have so many clothes, they would be fine for a month I think, it's William and I that have the bare minimum. Yeah. It's going to be a crappy week.
28 May, 2007
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Poor you Emma, you sound very stressed although you did manage to fit in a nice trip to the zoo over the weekend.
As I am fortunate enough not to have to go out to work I have no advice for you.
If you lived in Ireland you can legally drive on your own without having passed your test, (mad isn't it)!
Oh Emma this sounds like such a stressed filled weekend. The washing machine must be the worst thing to break down even if the kids have a lot of clothes. Poor Saoirse hope she's better soon, I don't know about the doc children go up and down very quickly so I guess if she doesn't pick up in another day you might want to get her checked just for your peace of mind. I really wish I lived near Beccy to help her out (I so envy all my friends [and your mum] who have their children and grandchildren living nearby).
I got tired just reading that! I feel overwhelmed with busy-ness sometimes and I don't have any kids yet! Can't imagine all that! Take a minute to breath!
So how many hours has Saoirse been sick now? If it lasts longer than 24 hours, that's when I call the doctor. Or if they are having trouble breathing I call right away (mine both have asthma).
You are just as busy as us full time working moms - more so since you have four kids, two of them older in activities. I'd like to know how YOU do it since I admire you so much.
See, the reason I don't have an issue with it is I only do the work thing. I don't have activities (well, Little Man goes to Little Gym once a week, but that's manageable), I only have one kid and I don't volunteer anywhere. Also? I really don't clean very much. I just do the bare minimum.
None of us with more than one or two kids feel like we have things under control.
What has helped me is to keep a DayTimer and write down EVERYTHING. There are so many little things (like stopping at the bank) and big things (like school events) to keep track of. I even write down when I will do laundry, LOL.
All those thoughts spinning around in your mind about stuff you want to do or need to remember--get out your DayTimer (or notebook) and write down when you will do it. Then stop stressing about it.
I work every day and have 3 kids with school events and sports to keep track of, and even though I'm a fairly well-organized person, I sure couldn't keep track of it all without my DayTimer. I look at it constantly. And sometimes I still forget things (like all the damn paperwork the kids bring home from school)!
I hear you about kids playing on different teams at different places. I won't make all my kids' games either, but I'll do what I can, and take turns watching them. I'll try to make it as fair as possible.
Breathe!
(((HUGS)))
I've been wondering the same damn thing! I've been a SAHM for 15 years now and the prospect of going to work - even partime - sends shudders down my spine, because all I can think about is how the hell will I manage to keep up with laundry, ironing, cleaning and cooking on top of working?!
So, I'm ALL ears!
*partTime*
Girl, most days, even I don't know how I do it! Whether you're working at home or not, you're still working! Chris is a huge help for me as far as cleaning and taking care of the girls. If he wasn't helping, I hate to think what my house would look like!
Just take it one day at a time!
I don't have kids in activities yet until this week, so I will let you know how it all gets done, but I'm pretty sure the answer is that it doesn't all get done!!
My head is spinning from your busy week.
I know I have 4 kids too, and work 75 hrs biweekly and I'll tell you there is NO VOLUNTEERING going on here. Just don't have the damn time to do it girl, and my kids aren't involved in sports, my oldest is the only one that is in something, she takes piano lessons once a week. That's all I can commit to.
I don't really do it very well Emma. So no really good advice here. I don't do any volunteering I just can't find the time for it! The kids activities are one that they all go to at the same time and day and another that 2 of them go to at the same time 2 days a week. Other then that I am terrible at getting other things done. The laundry is always behind. I don't think I've been caught up with my laundry in years...literally! My house at the moment? Also not kept up very well. Its even harder right now with Kelly gone. I notice a lot more now how much help he was. Just looking forward to being up there with him in August and starting over with a fresh clean house.
You don't have your licence?? Maybe you and my daughter can go together, she starts in the next couple of weeks :o) Kidding of course. You'll wonder how you did without it when you get it. As for now, it's a bit stressful and a little overwhelming. And of course I'm talking about me just reading all the things you do. You? Well you seem to have things under control. I say you get a gold star!
I don't believe there really are superwomen moms who handle everything. You're in a position where even three Emmas wouldn't be enough. So doing what you can, in the way you can, is hugely admirable.
Go sleep.
Hi there,
I also failed my driving test three times.....twice in ON and once in VT (5 years later). Finally got it at 33. You can do it too-don't be afraid to try again.
Really like your honesty....it seems like it's a really bad week. It will get better. Sending good thoughts!
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