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We were at a birthday party this afternoon. We had been out since 9 in the morning and I foolishly did not bring a spare nappy. I thought to myself that as long as Sophie doesn't poo we are okay.
The party was from 1-3 and just after 2 one of the mum's said "I think she has pooed."
I take a quick peek and can't see anything, but definitely there is a strong smell coming from that direction.
"Oh no, she hasn't...but I think she must have a really smelly fart."
Sophie goes on about her business (playing with a stuffed animals and sticking them through the coffe table) until about 15 minutes later when she sits on the floor and yells at me "MUMMY!!! I POOED!!"
And not just once, she said it over and over "I pooed, I pooed, I pooed." So really I had no choice but to admit that yes, she had pooed, and that I, the most forgetful mother in the world, did not have a nappy. Of course, she was the only one in nappies there. So that is how she stayed until we got home.
I just realized as I was typing this, that out in the car were 3 new pairs of panties...totally could have out her in them and just prayed she wouldn't pee. Feck, forgetful and stupid.
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Should I be concerned about Saoirse? She has never been an overly affectionate child, she'll kiss me but her dad usually only gets hugs and she is not one to say "I love you." If you ask her who she loves and name people she will usually answer yes, she loves them but only once has she ever said "I love you, Mummy." At school they were singing that song that goes "Skinnimarinidink (or however it is spelled) I love you, I love you in the morning and in the afternoon, I love you in the evening underneath the moon" You know the one I'm talking about? Anyway, she can sing it properly and does, but sometimes she will go "Skinnimarinidink I don't love no one." Seriously? What the hell is that? This is a child who is told numerous times daily that she is loved. She laughs when I ask her why she says that. I am really worried about it and I'm not sure if I should be or not. I guess I am going to have to bring it up with her doctor when we see him again. I worry that she will be the child who ends up killing the neighbourhood cats.
She also was telling me the other day that her back hurt. "Oh," I say, "Do you need to go to the doctor?" She says "No, I like the pain."
So odd. Odd and worrisome.
08 May, 2008
Selling out her mother
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It sounds like Saoirse's just a little contrary - that's all. Just don't give her ANY attention when she says stuff like that (ignore her completely). Give her lots of attention when she says really positive and loving things about or toward others.
If you must say something - just make light of it and jolly her into giggling about something loving (tickle her?)...
That's hilarious about Sophie. Sorry - but I laughed, despite feeling sorry for you;) (and her poor wee bottom).
I agree with TLG....she probably says it for shock value. If you don't pay attention to those comments, she'll probably stop saying them. Of course if that doesn't work, you may have to take some kind of action...like talking to the doctor about it. That's a tough one!
It's really hard to say what to do. Odds are that she's just going through a stage. She's one of those shy/quiet types; sometimes they feel like they get less attention than the more outspoken children (that's not to say that it's actually a legitimate feeling). So, she's likely just doing it for attention.
The only thing that concerns me is the "No, I like the pain" comment. Where does one her age even learn something like that. If she came up with it on her own, it might be cause for concern...not HUGE concern...but concern.
Even though it's probably nothing, I can see why you're scared. She's your baby, and you don't want her to be unhappy. My father has an insanely ridiculous memory, and he can actually remember being three or four years old and hearing people say things like "He's so good; he never talks; he's so quiet." And he says he knows now that even at that age, he was depressed. Sooo...while I'm still nearly certain your baby is fine, it still wouldn't hurt anything to speak to the doctor about it.
I think she's just trying to get a reaction from you..and getting it. I wouldn't worry.
And, shame of Sophie for selling you out.
For the back hurt/pain comment - could it also be she just isn't right in her assessment of pain and hurt? I mean, Abby used to say her stomach hurt and was killing her when I could hear it rumble wiht hunger. And we all know a rumbling stomach doesn't "kill" with pain.
It's so hard, because she's still so young and I can't remember what age kids really learn the meaning of love and empathy and so forth, but I want to say it's older than Saoirse.
Look at it this way, she obviously loves Sophie. She may not be vocal about her love of people, but if she were a future serial killer, she could never show affection towards anyone and she definitely wouldn't tolerate her little sister.
I agree with everyone else, total shock value.
And what happened with you with Sophie, totally has happened to me before. It's why we now have diapers in the car door, so that it never, ever happens to me again. Because of course, mine didn't happen towards the end of the party, no sirree....
I think that she is fine-- just going through a phase and seeing what kind of reactions she gets.
but it would make you feel better to ask the dr, so you should.
She probably does it because she knows that it bothers you. But, it can't do any harm to ask her doctor anyway.
I'm with everyone else, I'd put my money on the reaction she gets from you when she says it. As for the poopy diaper? Been there done that sooooooo glad those days are over!
OH my! Saoirse is certainly a pill! LOL
I agree that she sounds like she like to get your goat!
I don't think she has any real issues, but run it past her doc if it will give you peace of mind.
Much as I agree with everyone else's assessment of the situation - in that she's likely just being contrary (good word!) - I would ask the doctor what she thinks. A qualified opinion certainly wouldn't hurt.
Not to worry. She is strong. She is a resilient child. When she loves, she will love strong. Her passion will be greater than those of us who love everyone. Her definition of love is just truer.
Happy Mother's Day, Emma! I know you're working today, but I hope you have a good one anyway. :D
Yep, I agree with the others. She's just pushing your buttons, or trying to.
I keep diapers in the car now after having to go without once. What a mess!
I agree with Tiger Lamb, I think Saoirse is also starting to test the boundaries....
Btw, Happy Mother's Day Emma!
Okay....that was just too funny!
Everybody summed it up much better than I could, so YEAH! What they said!
My son rarely said..."I love you" to me until age 5. I got hugs all the time and not so much with the kisses past age 2. Then again at 5..everything picked up again.
I wouldn't worry too much....
As for the no nappy thing...I frequently leave the house without wipes...and I hate that...
Oh no! She's just being contrary. I wouldn't worry at all! I can relate to the no diapers -- been there, done that and bought the t-shirt!
I agree with the others that she is probably just being contrary or trying to get a reaction out of you. Madison can be like that and when she was a toddler tended to pick on people more then express her love for them. She still is like that a bit but not as much since no one really reacts to it from her. Although I agree with Squishy that if it concerns you it can't hurt to talk to her doctor about it and see what he thinks.
Saw your tweets . . . I hope all is OK and that everybody is home and well soon.
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