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I swear I'm not stealing off of That Chick and the 12 days of her and Jason. Catwoman asked me this question:
How did you meet William? Do you think the two of you will ever marry? Or have you sworn off marriage all together because of your first one?
and I hesitated about answering it right now during the 12 days because Chick's story is so freaking entertaining and she writes so freaking well. And if I had Chick's talent? My manuscript would be making its way to every editor's readers. Because readers? They make the publishing world move.
So on to the not very entertaining....
I lie quite often about how I met William. Because the truth totally embarrasses me. I met William in Yahoo Chat. I'm blushing as I write that. Literally burning up at that fact that I have just blurted it out to the world wide web that I met my partner on the net. Usually I say we met in Belfast. Which has a slight ring of truth to it as we did meet in the Belfast room. Pushing it? I know. But we could have met in Belfast had he been there a year earlier or myself a year later.
I really don't know why it bothers me to say we met through the internet. Lots of people do it. Some of my favourite blogs have met their husbands that way. But it does. So much so that my face is currently on fire and I am seriously considering deleting this whole post. But I won't because somehow I have gotten myself the reputation as an honest blogger. And I am, just I usually leave that out. But really? Most of you probably assumed it anyway, him being from Australia and me being from Canada. You know, if you bother to wonder about people.
So...I met him at 11.52pm Mountain Time on January 1, 2003. I totally was not looking for anything at that point in time as I had sworn off men about 5 months before after a very, very bad year. I did like him right away though, he was very sweet. Pretty soon, we decided to meet and see where it would go. He arrived here on April 16th. He was only going to stay until June but he ended up extending it to October. And being away from him for 4 months between visits was awful.
Those of you who were reading me last winter know that we went through a really rough patch. And I suppose that many relationships do have their trials. We managed to work through a lot of stuff and while we would never be anyone's version of a perfect couple I would like to think that we are quite good together. And let's face it...we make beautiful children.
Will we get married? I don't know. I mentioned once that I am still married. When H and I separated I really had no intentions of marrying again, I didn't think I would even meet anyone. When I met William there just wasn't the money to go ahead. I can do it without a lawyer, I don't believe there is anything to for H and I to have to work out, obviously I will have custody of the kids. In that case it will be quite cheap, only $285 to file the papers and my cousin will serve H for no charge. I would like to do this after our holiday, and get it out of the way. I need written proof of my full custody anyway to get Taylor into counselling. Since her father has never bothered to get me a letter consenting.
I don't know if William still wants to get married. He said to me once, when I hadn't filed for divorce, that he would never bring it up again and true to his word he has not. For the record, I would like to get married. I would LOVE to get married. I can not imagine any other man being in my life. William, as they say, is a keeper. Even if he does sometimes piss me off. I never piss him of course, I am as close to perfect as is humanly possible.
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Today Sophie is 11 months old. I know! Crazy, right? Wasn't it just yesterday that they ripped open my stomach and she screamed her way out? Apparently not, as she is a walking (well, one step at a time), talking (dada, mama, hiya!, bop [biscuit], ta [both thank you and here], eating (bloody everything) machine.
And in "How terrible a mother am I?" when a few people asked me today how old she is I said "She'll be 11 months on Wednesday!" Because for some reason I keep thinking she was born on the 11th. That was Saoirse. Taylor and Sophie- they are the 10th. Seriously. Tis terrible to be the fourth child. Off the top of my head I can not remember her length at birth and I forgot to write it on the calendar when her 5th tooth broke through. Sometime last week. Should I just pick a date?
10 July, 2007
The story of William and I
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19 comments:
Very cool. You are now the second person I know who has met someone over the internet. Don't be embarrassed girl shout it from the rooftops!!! I would in a heartbeat! Dare to be different is my motto. But in today's world this isn't different at all. And your honesty keeps bringing me back. Show me a 'perfect' marriage and I'll show you a lot of behind-the-scene turmoil going on.
Wow! That was really interesting. I love reading about it. Sounds a bit like my life, no, not the meeting on the net part nor still being married, just about him pissing me off often ;-) or the not wanting to get married again.
And talk about being a 'terrible' mother, I always call my boys with the wrong names and and forgetting about this and that, so if you're terrible, then I am too....and I only have 3 kids!!
Btw, How old is Liam?
Emma I love your honesty and hell it doesn't matter how you met. I met Joules in a nightclub (we were both a little more than tipsy) hardly an auspicious beginning but here we are nearly 17 years later!
Shit, I must be a horrible mother cuz I have no idea what Michael's birth length was - and he's only my second kid. And I'm constantly making up dates for those all-important tooth popping moments.
And thanks for the William story!
Perhaps next year, long after Chick is done, I'll tell the Jeff-meeting story. Though it's really not that interesting...
I, too, must be a terrible mother. I don't think I wrote down ANY of Patrick's teeth, and he's only my second!
Shoot, I only have two kids and I can't remember their birth length. I only remember their weights since its on their walls in their rooms (stork bundles)!
I met HP on line. American Singles.com on January 30, 2001. It's not embarassing. It's the way things are these days.
my uncle met his second wife over the internet. he said he was "housebroken" & it charmed her.
and I love how honest you are!
I'm learning so much about you. How did I not know you weren't married to William? How did I not know he was from Australia? Either I'm not paying attention or you don't talk about yourself very much!
Great story about how you two met! Nothing embarassing about it!!
Lol that you didn't write down the tooth thing and that you got the birthdate wrong! I have noticed that with Alyssa, the baby book is not nearly as filled out as it was with Kaylie!
Don't be embarassed, Emma. I know a lot of people in person who met online. A very good friend of mine met her now husband on a yahoo chat room several years ago. I think they've been married 7 years now?
Also the only reason I know how long my kids were a birth is because they were all the same length except Joshua who was smaller because he was a preemie.
Oh and you guys do make beautiful children together! You girls are just adorable!
The taboo about meeting online has so been lifted! You really have nothing to be embarrassed about!
And thanks for sharing the story!
And I just know when Little Man's first two teeth came in. After that, all I know is that he got a total of 8 in 8 weeks. No dates. I didn't get the memo that I was supposed to write it down! :)
Who cares how you meet someone? Gah, we have some weird taboos don't we;). If I'm honest, though, I'd have been kinda squeamish about letting on about the internet meeting too. Sigh, I'm just a walking contradiction today.
All's well that ends well, hey;).
I love your honesty Emma, it doesn't matter how you guys met. What's important is that you love each other and you are happy together. Good on you :o)
Wow! I knew almost none of that. Very interesting!!
You have absolutely nothing to feel bad about and it's worked for you which is the main thing. Now we'll wait to hear about how you propose as if he's not mentioning marriage it's up to you to pop the question!!
question- is that your house on the map to the right? aren't you paranoid?
I thought your story was awesome.
And, as you know, I met Jason on the internet. I really don't feel like there is a stigma to it anymore.
Great story, Emma. And it WAS entertaining to read. You're a good writer. :)
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