A parental lack of support

I'm not sure what the deal is with mothers. I am pretty sure they are put on this earth to support your decisions to the best of their ability. Apparently, my mother does not realize this.

She is not at all happy with our decision to have Saoirse go to Australia with her FATHER. It does not seem to matter what Saoirse's feelings would be, or what William's or even mine are. In her her mind, what we are doing is just plain wrong.

"I couldn't let her go, Emma, but that's just me."

As much as I love my mother, I will be quick to point out that I did not once nominate her for a mother of the year award. She is acting as though I am a terrible parent for allowing my daughter to be with her father.

I have already said I hate the idea of her going, I cry whenever I think about it. But the reality is I would still have to work if she were here and getting her into a daycare would be impossible because of my hours. And if I did manage to find child care she would be spending most of her time with strangers. Plus I would be stressed and as people may have realized I do not handle stress very well.In Australia, Saoirse will be with her dad and his family. There are 3 kids near her age, and plenty of older cousins to enjoy her.

Of course, it is not only my mother who has said "I couldn't do that." My friends Nancy and Andrea also said it. Others haven't said it, but I am sure thought it. My friend Shelley was fantastic and said to me that really, it would be quite selfish to not allow Saoirse to go with William as the "sun rises and sets on him." Which is very true and works in a vice versa situation as well.

I do feel like I am doing what is best for not only Saoirse, but also for William. I know how much he hates being in Australia and with Saoirse there with him, he will be able to create good memories of that country. Yes, of course I will miss her, more than I can even imagine. I just have to look at it like it is a long holiday.