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Good God. It is hard work to set up invites when you go private. Or I am just really, really lazy.
Let's go with lazy. I am too lazy to go through 2 different email accounts and search out email addresses. I don't keep an address book in my email, you see. Why? Because it requires work on my part. Not even hard work. Just work. If you know anything about me by now it is that I am laaaazzzy.
You should also know by now that William and I tend to fight. And that is what happened on Saturday afternoon. A blow out over William's usual pet peeve, the house. So I sent an email to the addresses I did have in gmail (which makes it way easier than my shaw account does!) saying that because we had split up I was going private. I fully expected that in the next few days I would have a lot of bitching to do. Maybe I jumped the gun... I do have a lot of things and thoughts to work out. And I am very likely to attempt some of it on here. William and I had a pretty good talk this morning and have agreed that we definitely need counselling. Do we give up a relationship and 2 parents together for our daughters over the state of a house? I know that I never want to be talked to the way he talked to me yesterday. I never want to say the things I said to him either. This is where counselling comes in. Somewhere, somehow, we need to learn to be a partnership. We need to learn to treat each other fairly. I am not looking for perfection, I just want to be happy. I want my children to be happy. I refuse to raise my children for any longer in an unhappy home.
So I will have to decide what to do with the blog. I would like to keep it open, I know there are a lot of lurkers and even though they never comment (HORRIBLE!) I do appreciate the fact that they come here day after day. William reads here sometimes, and I know he probably doesn't want me writing about him. But I say what I always say...what is written here is my truth. It is how I work things out for myself. I really am not a fan of wordpress, and once again I am too lazy to start another blog. I don't know. I'll figure it out and let you know. It'll be a couple of days though, I work New Years Eve (until 11.30...bastards!) and New Years Day.
Oh, and you guys, thanks for the emails and the facebook messages. They meant a lot.
31 December, 2007
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I can't believe you're about to split up over the condition of, of all things, your house.
And why can't I believe this?
Cuz J and I are thisclose to divorcing over the same thing.
More on that to follow on my blog...
But it's nice to know William is at least seeing the light.
Relationships are NEVER easy. It's much easier to walk away than to stay and work through the tough patches.
I really hope you and William will work together and sort things out.
Whatever the problem is -- it AIN'T about whether or not your house is clean and tidy;). But you probably already know that.
Just remember (when you do go to counseling); personal responsibility and personal accountability is where you each will find resolution and resolve to make things work. Not in each other - but in yourselves.
Wishing you the best for 2008!! xo
I think counseling is the best thing ever, in the world, ever. It has helped Jason and I like you would not believe. We were really close to splitting up much earlier this year, not over the house but over equally minor things.
((((((BIG HUGS)))))
My thoughts and prayers are with you and William. As far as the blog goes, do whatever you need to do for you!
I hope the counselling works for you guys and 2008 brings happiness and better times.
Good Luck, thinknig of you.
So sorry about the big fight. The house, the money, a job transfer...it can come from anywhere and bite us in the ass.
I do enjoy reading your blog...though I'm probably guilty of not commenting too often. But I understand it can be tough to write about such personal struggles.
Best of luck!
I've been married long enough to know it isn't the 'house' that's the problem. It's probably just easier to bitch about the house then what the real problem is. But you know that so that was just a waste of time. I just sent an email because I didn't come here first and I'm SO glad to read you two are talking. Counselling sounds like a great thing to do. I hope everything works out!
Well lazy I'm quite glad to see you 'back'. And quite sorry I didn't comment but instead continued via email.
I'm proud of you AND William for agreeing to counseling. many times you cannot get both partners to agree but I think therapy is one of the most beautiful things EVER!
And believe me there have been plenty of times I really thought Josh and I would split if not for the kids. Which is really foul and ridiculous and a poor excuse for anything but they have kept us hanging on by a thread sometimes when otherwise? I would've ran far far away because cod damn marriage is obnoxiously difficult at times and who wants to WORK when you are SO DAMN LAZY??!!
yes, I'm lazy too. It's a good thing to admit.
Not lazy? Counseling. It's hard work but worth it. Really.
Also not lazy? Coming my way to visit and have coffee and/or tea. I have a large selection of both currently and a darling 4 pot machine now which will give us coffee or hot water in moments.
It's nice to have you 'back'. xox
I've been wondering about you!! You can't just be sending an email out like that all willy nilly and then disappearing!
But, I am so glad to hear that you guys have talked and are going to try counseling. I 100% agree with you that something like the house should not be the end of your relationship. At least if counseling doesn't work you know that you have tried everything. I hope you decide to continue blogging.
Hugs and I'll be thinkin about you!
Emma! This is your top lurker here who was in a bit of a panic over the fact you went private. Phew! Congrats on the counselling decision and I said a little prayer for you and William. Counselling did wonders for Rob and I swear by it. Best of luck for real! Lisa in Vancouver.
I was very worried about you yesterday. I hope the therapist helps you get to the root of the problem. Keep us posted.
I hope the therapy works for you. Its no fun living in a house full of fighting. I know. But mine has turned around and I'll be hoping yours does, too. I'm thinking yall both should maybe try the same thing I did.
Hang in there. I'll have my fingers crossed for you!
good luck with the counseling. i'm glad to hear that there is some hope. i've been thinking about you a lot! hang in there!
OK, I've obviously missed an episode or two while I was gone.
I'm sorry to hear about the big fight, as you know, Sweetie Pie and I also almost broke up earlier this year. I think it happens to everyone. Whether you choose to go private or not, I'll be there! And I'm also available by email if you ever need me too...
Glad you are back, I was going to give you a week, then start stalking you if I hadn't heard from you:-). Obviously others cared more and started stalking you right away, I hide my head in shame. I am so glad you are going for counselling and working things out. Happy New Year!
Glad to see you are back! To many are going private and it makes things difficult, but am glad to still be able to keep up with them. I am glad to hear you and William are going to try to do counseling and work things out. Kelly and I argue over the house all the time I am just tired of cleaning up after kids who are old enough to clean their own messes and a husband who throws his own crap everywhere. None of the mess usually is my own which leaves me tired of cleaning it....
Take a few days to sort things and don't work to hard even though they are working you on both new years eve and day! Bastards....
(((hugs))))
I think I missed a post somewhere in here..I didn't realize anything had happened or I'd have definitely sent you a message or an email. I'm so sorry you guys are having some issues. Thank goodness for counseling though...talking a man into seeing a counselor (and sometimes a woman too) is a hard task. My parents are about six months away from their 30 year wedding anniversary...and they've just finally done counseling this year. I was so sick of hearing them snap at each other, and the sessions actually seemed to have worked! I hope yours do as well!!
I am so sorry sweetie. I know that relationships can be really tough... I am so glad that you are seeking counseling. that is a step in the right direction.
Thinking of you darling.....
So sorry that things have been stressful for you lately. You're making positive steps though, and that's something to take pride in!
Thank goodness you didn't go private, I just started reading you! :)
I am glad that you have taken a step to resolve the issues with you guys......and on a selfish note I am glad you are posting again! May 2008 be a good year for you....
we've been to counseling twice now and it saved our marriage. GOOD ON YOU BOTH for going. My admiration for you just jumped sky high (as if I didn't love you enough already!)
(sorry to hear about the hernia though. maybe we will have our surgeries at the same time!)
Don't back out of the therapy - it's important when there are issues you can't work out on your own - Best wishes for you. Let this be the start of a HAPPY New Year.
Hi Emma I'm just catching up because I wasn't able to access your blog when Beccy and I got back from London, then I got your email. Now I know what you have been dealing with. Relationships are rarely trouble free! To me you always seem to think things through so sensibly (at least that's what comes over in your writing). I do hope that the counseling helps. Thinking of you.
Hi Emma. Hope you and William can sort everything out and that the counselling helps. Thinking of you.
I am here regardless of a private blog or not...
Good luck with counseling...
Thinking of you sweets, sending love and strength to do whatever it is you think is right.
Hugs & kisses.
oops that would be me there signed in with wrong name :c)
I love your blog but can't always think of what to say.
Good luck with counselling...
I don't want to leave a huge long comment...maybe I will email you?
I do want to say this...
It isn't always what it seems...the state of the house is what you fight about but it's not necessarily the problem. If you do anything this year, go for counselling!!!!! Do it! In the end, whatever happens, YOU will be better off for having gone. IT WILL BE THE BEST INVESTMENT IN YOURSELF (YOURSELVES) YOU WILL EVER MAKE IN YOUR LIFETIME. Do it...and not just to save the marriage...not just for the sake of the kids...but for yourself.
Good luck.
xo
Agreeing that you both want to make the relationship work and going to counseling is a great start. I wish you the best of luck!
I'm glad you posted - I had been wondering how things were going after getting your email. I hope you can work it out - everyone deserves to be happy.
I'm sooo sorry you're having a rough go of it. I wish you guys the best ... and hope counselling does the trick. It's not easy, I know.
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