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...I'm thinking that all you people shopping at the west end Wal-Mart yesterday have never had a child, or, judging by the age of some of you, you gave birth in the midst of the Depression and have convienently forgotten that two year olds are prone to temper tantrums. Of course, I forget that children "back in my day" were extremely well behaved and never, ever would have dreamed of pitching a fit in the midst of the super long Wal-Mart line. Or the local Hudson's Bay Company in those days I suppose.
But my two year old? She is prone to those tantrums. And quite honestly, I don't need to listen to your snide little comments. I don't need to feel your evil glare boring a hole in the back of my head. I don't need to hear from my friend that the guy in the line behind her said "She should just give that kid a sucker."
First off, I am not going to reward my child for having screaming bloody murder. As much as I hate the fact that I am making a store full of people listen to my child have a fit, I am not willing to give her a treat to make her stop.
And just so you know, she wasn't crying because she wanted some candy and I said no. She was crying because she wasn't allowed to run amongst the bras and panties. She was mad that I made her walk away. So mad she decided just to lie down in the middle of the aisle. Me picking her up and putting her in the cart is what led to her trying to scream the building down.
Yes, I know that girl can scream. It was in my ear after all. But you? Are no more mature than her with your holier than thou attitudes.
Not so sincerely,
Emma,
Mum of 4 (and just so you know, 2 of those 4 never had tantrums!)
24 September, 2008
Attention Wal-Mart Shoppers...
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Tell me about it...I have now developed a return look for those folks too.....it is not pleasant to be on the receiving end of those I can tell you!!
Oh sorry. Was that YOU I was glaring at who had the little one who was throwing a tantrum?? KIDDING! I always try and say something so the mom knows she's not alone when that happens. I've seen people be rude and say mean things when this happens and the poor mom seems like she wants to crawl into a hole. Poor thing. Oh how we're so quick to judge when it's not happening to us.
Did you make a snide comment back? Paisley and I were on a plane back in July and sat behind some old man that grumbled the whole time-totally pissed me off. He even had the gall to lean his chair back, and when there's a car seat there? Yeah, doesn't leave a whole lot of room for a two year old's feet. Then his teenage daughters turned around to talk to him and were super loud, much louder than my 2 year old. Who, by the way, was perfect. Asshole.
I'm sorry-- that is just so miserable. and only a mom understands.
Oh man, you make me nervous! I hadn't even thought about the tantrums out in public that are to come... what ever will I do?! (NOT give him suckers, that's for sure!)
Hey, we were there, I didn't know it was your kid. Frankly, I didn't pay much attention as I was just getting my stuff and paying but did hear a kid have a fit. If I would have known, I would have offered her some chocolate;-). Kidding. I agree, no reward for bad behaviour. Once my daughter did that and I wrapped my arms tightly around my screaming child and reached under her coat and pinched. I whispered in her ear to stop or she would get another one and all the while I looked like a mother who hugs her child when she throws a fit. I whispered that I love her, and she needs to quit, and throwing a fit would not help her to have her own way, and gave her a gentle reminding pinch. My children are grown now, so they won't likely be removed for that abuse, but, of course someone who heard that I did that was appalled and thought I was an abusive parent. Frankly, it only ever happened once; funny, that.
Anyway, sorry you had to endure the fit and the comments.
I love all those judgemental strangers - NOT.
I think it's one thing if you didn't try to do anything to stop her, but if you are not giving in to her demands? That's different. I just get mad when parents tell a kid no for something and then when the kids gets upset they reward. You did right to not give in.
Been there...more times than I care to count! But usually the tantrums from this end ARE because I won't get her a sucker!
Ah, we had a similar meltdown in Wal-Mart the other day because my 3 year old who was in desperate need of a nap wanted an Icee. Actually, I had ever intention to buy one as promised before going into the store but the machine was broken.
Those people who stare and pass judgment got a big mental middle finger from me. Fuckers!
How dare that man tell you to give her a sucker!
Some people's children really do suck.
Oh... I'm not talking about yours.
Thought I should probably clarify that!
People can be so nasty!
One of the most disturbing things I've seen in awhile was a kid having a tantrum in the middle of the mall and his Dad RUNNING to the candy machine to get him a gumball/candy. I was shocked.
I get those same looks all the time, but I refuse to give in to my twins. I've learned that if I do it once, they'll play me until I put my foot down again.
Kudos to you for not giving in! I've been there - with BOTH kids crying. One for similar reasons as your daughter, the other because his older brother was crying. I had my own personal matching sirens in the line at Target! Karma will kick those other people in the shins soon enough!
People like that piss me off. Eeyore had a tantrum the other day yelling I WANT CANDY over and over and luckily HP was with me and he took her to the car kicking and screaming while I checked out with Tigger. But I have been there by myself too! Good for you!
I found your blog from Burgh Baby, and I entered to win your cards!! I make Stampin' Up cards too, so I'm hoping I win.
I totally feel your pain on the tantrums. Ughh. I went through it this morning with my middle son - he is almost three and I really felt we were past this stuff. Not so. He pulled it this morning before preschool . . . and then again when i picked him up. Thankfully the other moms there were more supportive than the people you witnessed at WalMart . . . they're in the same boat so they "get it". Sorry to hear people were so judgmental - it's often like that these days, and it really sucks b/c it's hard enough being a mom!!
I HATE people that are stupid. Alyssa throws some kind of fit almost everytime we go, well, anywhere. Usually it is over something trivial, but she screams nonetheless. I dare someone to actually say something to me about it though!
I only thank God that you were not mean and hateful to your child when the tanrum happened. I was at Walmart today and heard a Dad being so mean and ugly (really really mean talk)to his children and it hurt my heart so bad to hear it. I had to go glare at the man. Hateful.Poor children.I would never get mad about a tantrum. That is a part of childhood.
Been there...done that. People can take their stupid glared and shove 'em up their asses.
You were right not to give in. Screw what other people think; it's your kid and only you know what is right and wrong for them. I hate people and their snide comments.
My son is elementary school age and he got told not to do something in public the other day too. He didn't listen to me when I told him twice not to do it so when hubby had to tell him, he got upset. So this idiot kept staring at us like we were horrible parents because we told him not to do something. I told him to mind his business and stop staring. It's not like we were abusing him or even yelling at him, just told him to stop what he was doing. Makes me think that his kids (if he has any) are wild childs if he can't do anything but give us dirty looks for telling our kids no.
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